The marriage therapist asks me a question. He wonders if I am aware of my attachment style. The term sounds vaguely familiar, but I am not sure what my attachment style is. Do you know what your attachment style is?
I have discovered mine, and it is not surprising:
Anxious Attachment
“An anxious attachment style in relationships can be challenging to manage. Whereas anxious attachers are sensitive and attuned to their partners’ needs, they also typically require constant reassurance and affection to feel safe as part of a romantic couple. If validation isn’t provided in the way an anxious attacher requires, they may feel worried and stressed about their relationships.
People with the anxious attachment style often internalize what they perceive to be a lack of affection and intimacy as not being ‘worthy of love,’ and they intensely fear rejection as a result. In an attempt to avoid abandonment, an anxious attacher may become clingy, hypervigilant, and jealous in a relationship. They are often overwhelmed by the fear of being alone, so they do whatever they can within their power to hold on to their relationship. Someone with an anxious attachment style sees their partner as the remedy to their strong emotional needs.” https://www.attachmentproject.com/anxious-attachment-relationships/
Now that I am face-to-face with my faults, what am I going to do to change?
Change my focus. As wonderful as my husband is, he cannot be the foundation for my emotional needs. That would be a form of idolatry, because only Christ should be the foundation I build my life on.
These words come to me so easily when I feel secure, but it doesn’t take much to send me into the pit of fear. It is during those times of being triggered that I remind myself: “Tina, this is a trauma response and it will pass.”
The climb to wholeness requires change-change in how I think, feel, and act. Thank you for praying for our family as we hike this mountain of restoration.
Health Update
I just returned from a doctor’s visit. My blood work revealed that I have elevated levels of Epstein-Barr virus. EBV is a herpesvirus that comes from an exposure to someone with mono. I am not contagious, but one of the main symptoms is fatigue. The doctor has a protocol of supplements to combat this illness. I also need to rest.
In addition, there is a nodule in my thyroid that needs to be investigated. I will be getting an ultrasound on my thyroid soon.
I need a new body. Heaven is looking better every day!
Prayer
Father God,
Even when my body falls apart, You are good. Even when I am in the pit of anxiety, You are good.
I need You to make a way for me.
A way to cope with numerous health issues.
A way to be hopeful when the healing process takes long.
A way to smile even when my nerves are stressed and frayed.
I am confident that You are able to make a way for me. I choose to rest in You.
Isaiah 43:19: God will make a way!
“Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” Isaiah 43:19.
Sing with me. God will make a way!
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